Family Nudism In Blended Families
Is A Nudist Lifestyle Right When Step Dads & Moms Are Involved? It Depends.
Let's say you have two young teen boys from a first marriage, and you've remarried to a women with two young teen daughters. It isn't unrealistic to have concerns about the kids, knowing without the biologic bond to keep them from having a mutual attraction, unfavorable outcomes may ensue.
So, how do blended families manage the day-to-day matters of living together in a single home, going through all the motions of the day, such as getting ready for school (the dressing, the bath time, etc.) and the general dress code around the house? In non-blended families, dress codes are usually pretty relaxed. In the new blended family, how does it go? And is "family nudism" even an option?
Perhaps the best answers will come from looking at real-life examples, including my own experiences.
At forty, with two young boys ages nine and thirteen, I married a woman, thirty-nine, with two pubescent teen girls, ten and twelve. The custody arrangements meant every other week we lived together as a family. We didn't have a general discussion regarding dress codes or nudity, and just sort of played it by ear. My new wife was comfortable being naked or semi-nude, as was I, and soon there was no attempt to "cover up" if one of the kids entered our bedroom, boy or girl. The boys were soon comfortable heading to their shared bathroom in their underwear, and the girls soon followed - so, this detail of life, the nudity business - seemed to evolve on its own.
Soon we found ourselves in a new house that had a hot tub on the back deck, which we were all looking forward to. When it came time to try it out, my wife appeared wearing a suit and I asked why she bothered. She said, "Well, the boys." They'd already seen her mostly naked before, and I assured it a suit wasn't necessary, and that we could go "European" when it came to the hot tub. She dropped the suit and we got in naked.
When her youngest daughter appeared, she asked if she could join us. We said sure and she started to retreat to the house to get her bathing suit on. My wife told her she didn't need to bother, pointing out that we hadn't. So she took off her clothes and got in.
While it didn't bother me to be naked (I in fact did spend a lot of time in Europe [See: Euro Teen Nudists]), I was initially bothered by having my wife's young naked daughter beside us in the pool, wondering what her biological father might think. (Later on it
Poll: Sixty-four percent of U.S. members say nudism in their own blended families is a bridge too far. "If they'd been younger, sure," is the common lament.
became clear that wasn't a problem.) After twenty minutes or so of soaking I had to get out to cool off, and moved to a chair beside the tub. There was no point in covering up. Then my wife joined me and soon her daughter. It meant the three of us were sitting naked in the back yard with steam rising from us when her elder daughter appeared.
The elder daughter's response was the typical teen "ewww" like she'd come across a dead animal on the roadside. My wife said, "Oh, don't be a prude. Join us," to which the daughter replied, "Never!" Regardless, she hung around as we kept getting into and out of the hot tub. Then maybe on our fourth trip in, the elder daughter made a harrumphing noise like she was extremely bothered and said, "All right, I'll get in!" and proceeded to strip and join us.
Now, at twelve, she already had budding breasts and a mere wisp of pubic hair (unexpected by me), so I was immediately on a different course here versus the younger daughter. I was in no way "aroused" - it went more the other way, as it would if she was my biological daughter. Once I realized the "safety" was in check, I relaxed. She was a beautiful young girl, but in no way an "object" in terms of my male desires. She was my step-daughter, and she was safe with me. Older stepdaughters? It would be foolish to say this didn't present some unusual challenges*, but nor is it something to consider inappropriate. Blended European families have no problem sharing a nude beach or sauna in the buff.
Over the course of the next week while the hot tub was still a novelty all but my oldest son enjoyed it in the buff. I could understand his dilemma well enough and didn't push, though the girls teased him. Eventually, when summer came and we rented a lake cabin, all the kids were skinny dipping together and there were no signs of impropriety. They seemed to have acquired a natural respect for each other's bodies and, frankly, developed a very mature attitude toward nudity that they say benefitted them as they moved on through junior and senior high.
They're all in good, healthy relationships now. Over the recent holiday when a couple of them returned with "mates," we all enjoyed the hot tub and new sauna together. Both my step-daughters now claim that they're "nudists" as a way of explaining to their guests our family's peculiarity. It may not work for all families, but as far as we're concerned, it's just a natural thing to do when it comes to hot tubs, saunas or swimming pools. Why would anyone were a bathing suit? GregA/Photos & Commentary. Nudism In Blended Families